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6 days ago
2 min

Are you depressed?

These are words from someone who is: Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don't even need to wash. Jus...

douglas

Aug 27
2 min

Disapproving Looks

I'm aware that when we walk past a couple who are chatting we may get the feeling that they are making comments about us — possibly in th...

douglas

Jul 28
1 min

Self esteem

I have come across people who suffer from low self-esteem. The inability to truly like or at least appreciate themselves. Many of these i...

douglas

Jul 22
2 min

You've got a friend

I believe that if a friendly psychologist visited our homes and looked at the books which are kept beside our beds or lying on top of our...

douglas

Jul 15
2 min

Ouch

I've hurt my back. This isn't a cry for help or a petition where I expect to be inundated with copious amounts of sympathy cards. It's si...

douglas

Jul 8
1 min

Buy a VDub

It's 15 degrees centigrade outside as I write this. Up here in the NE of Scotland that's a heatwave. Indeed I've had to open the window t...

douglas

Jul 1
2 min

It's raining again

There is something about rain which makes me want to pick up a good book (well you wouldn't deliberately choose a bad one would you?) set...

douglas

Jun 23
3 min

Summer Reads

As we approach the summer we may well be looking to pack a novel, (or two) or even the kindle or some other e-book appliance into our sui...

douglas

Jun 16
2 min

You're important

I have a sister with red hair and when she was younger it was always the source of conversation. Often, she was teased unmercifully — 'Ca...

douglas

Jun 9
2 min

Just Breathe . . .

Many years ago, I was approached by the East Lothian Courier for an ‘interview.’ I was the new boy in town and a few paragraphs from me, ...

douglas

Jun 3
2 min

Brokenness

Have you ever been in the company of a friend or a family member when they have shared some news, specifically bad news and you have reto...

douglas

May 26
2 min

The beginning of the end

Many years ago I used to take two and half sugars in my tea. Actually most of the adults in my household did the same. Not two sugars, no...

Social Distancing and Other New Normalities

douglas

May 20
2 min

Social Distancing and Other New Normalities

At the beginning of the lockdown I felt a tinge of guilt. Mainly because other people were working but I wasn't. Face to face counselling...

douglas

Apr 29
1 min

Finding a buddy

In these unprecedented times which we find ourselves I'm discovering that many more people are using technology (including myself) to com...

douglas

Apr 23
1 min

Just so you know . . .

As a therapist I won't: Try to fix you. Give you advice. Tell you what to do. Pretend I know more about you than you do. Assume what is b...

douglas

Apr 15
1 min

Lockdown norms

Week four of lockdown, well at least in the UK. I hope you are finding resources to occupy yourself during the days at home — that's if y...

douglas

Apr 6
1 min

Coronaviris . . . it has changed us

I'm aware that the coronavirus has had a major impact on our lives, maybe more than anything else before. As a consequence many people ar...

douglas

Mar 14
1 min

Let's fudge things up

In the late 17th century, fudge was a verb meaning "to fit together or adjust [clumsily]." Then around 1800, the word was used to mean a ...

douglas

Mar 8
1 min

Rules

I attended a conference in Darlington a few days ago, the subject being shame. It was inspiring, educational, challenging and disturbing....

douglas

Feb 12
2 min

Silence is golden

Edinburgh is one of my favourite cities and I loved living there for most of the 80’s and all of the 90’s. I especially treasured the mon...

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Are you depressed?

Disapproving Looks

Self esteem

You've got a friend

Ouch

Buy a VDub

It's raining again

Summer Reads

You're important

Just Breathe . . .

Brokenness

The beginning of the end

Social Distancing and Other New Normalities

Finding a buddy

Just so you know . . .

Lockdown norms

Coronaviris . . . it has changed us

Let's fudge things up

Rules

Silence is golden

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